For the past two weeks, my emotions have been up and down.
There was news coming from the adoption agency in the U.S. that I might be
pulled out due to safety and financial issues. I was hoping it would be
resolved like every other issue that has came up throughout this past year in
Haiti. My heart felt like it was beating a million beats per second every time
I had internet to open my email box. I waited and waited for the decision. The
final decision came about a week ago and BOOM…..they have decided to pull me
out of Haiti and the extern position will be closed for now. What does this
mean? It means that I will have to leave earlier than expected, 2 months
earlier to be exact, and no one will be coming to replace me as the orphanage
extern.
Everything came at once and I had to excuse myself from the
office. I ran to my room and closed the door. I grabbed my pillow on the bed
and I screamed and screamed and screamed into the pillow. I sobbed so hard that
my whole body shook. I wasn’t prepared for this news. I still had hope that it
wasn’t true, but now….now it was final. I couldn’t even fathom the idea of
leaving the orphanage. What are the children going to say ? How are they
going to react ? How in the world am I going to explain this sudden
decision to leave? I broke down completely in my room. No one can hear my cries
because I am situated right next to the the generator. Between the crying
babies and the loud motor of the generator, I sank to a very dark place.
Life is not fair. I know that very well, but it is still
very hard to take this breaking news. I thought about the children and I felt
so guilty that I had to leave. Even when it is not my own decision, but it
still hurt so bad. The worst out of all of this was the fact that there was
going to be no one to replace me when I leave. The position has been terminated
for who knows how long. Yes the world is having a financial crisis, but I just
felt so bad for the children. It is so unfair this situation. The children
always suffers in the end. When I think about how I am going to tell everyone
the horrific news, my whole body just goes limp. I had no energy at all. I was
drained completely, emotionally. After about 30 minutes of weakness, I got
myself back together and wiped off my tears. I took a deep breath and got back
to the office. It was time to face the truth. This was a real lesson of letting
go!
I spoke with the staff members at the orphanage at first.
Most of them were super sad and some even walked away in disbelief. They all
asked who was going to come after me, and was appalled to know that there was
going to be no one. I was super sad, but I held it together for them. They all
knew how much I loved the children and the Haitian population. They said that
they were sad to see me go. I am going to miss everyone so very much. The
hardest part came at night time, when I had to break the news to the children. I
sat all the older children together outside and simply told them that due to
reasons outside of my control, I had to leave next week. The adolescents were
all so shocked and many grabbed onto me and started crying. I was heart broken
inside. I comforted them and told them that I will always be with them in
spirit and will never forget them. We all passed the night under the moon light
singing our sorrows away. We sang and sang and sang until our eye lids were so
heavy that we had to go to bed. I hugged and kissed each one of them good night
and told them that I loved them so much.
I, at least, got to say goodbye to all the staff and
children at Lamardelle, but for Kenscoff, I had to do it over the phone. I
heard so many screams and cries in the background on the phone. People were in
disbelief of this shocking news and refused to believe it. I asked them to kiss
and hug all the children for me and that for sure this will not be a final goodbye.
I will for sure come back to visit them again.
I had so much to do and finish up before my flight back to
France. I wanted to really finish all of the May reports for the adoptive
parents and also to do a finalized developmental chart for each child. I wanted
there to at least be an organized and final document for the children here. It
was the least that I can do for them and their adoptive parents. I was working
like a mad woman, day and night. I don’t think I had more than one hour of
sleep each night the last two weeks. I tried to spend as much time as possible
with the children and to take a lot of pictures to keep for memory.
Yesterday, to my surprise, the staff and children threw me a
huge surprise party. During the day, the staff member gave me a huge party with
all traditional Haitian dishes. There was only one meat dish, because they said
they were going to eat less meat and more veggies in honor of me. I was so
touched by their gesture ! We sang and danced together. They gave me a
beautiful painting of a Haitian child, and they all agreed that it was exactly
like the Haitian inner child of me. I couldn’t agree more. There was an instant
connection between the painting and me. At night time, all the children were
dressed in their best clothes and had all their hair done. We all had sodas and
chips together to celebrate my time with them this past year in Haiti. I was so
touched and so grateful for their love and kindness. All of the the children
made something special for me to take home. I received little letters, cute
drawings, and special love cards from each child. It was so sweet of them to do
that for me. The children sang me a goodbye song and told me that they will
always love me. Forever and always.
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I packed like a maniac last night. It wasn’t so much that I
was packing for me, but more so for the children. I organized everything that I
was leaving behind (medication, clothing, shoes, hygiene supplies, etc.) for
the children into boxes and bags. I labelled them all and gave them to the
oldest adolescent to distribute after I leave Haiti. I also wrote cards for
each of the adolescents and print out photos of them and I together over the
months here in Lamardelle. When they saw all the things that I was giving them
and also the pretty gifts, they were all super excited and squealed in joy. But
shortly after all that excitement, many of them came and hugged me and said
that they would trade anything to just have me here longer. We all hugged and
cried together. I reminded them to keep studying hard in school and to never
give up on their dreams. That they were intelligent and anything was possible.
Do not under-estimate oneself, because we all have unlimited potential. I left
their rooms for the very last time last night….the feeling was quite heavy on
my heart.
I walked all over the orphanage to kiss each and everyone of
the children goodbye. Looking at their sleeping faces, all the memories of
these past 10 months flashed before my eyes. I could hear their giggles in the
back ground. Their cries when they fell or wasn’t feeling well. I could hear
them calling out « Lori, Lori, Lori. » I am going to miss them so
much ! I am going to miss their hugs and kisses every morning. I am going
to miss holding them every night after a stressful day of work. I am going to
miss each and every one of their bright little faces looking back at me with
unconditional love. I went back to my room, the empty white walls haunted me.
The room that I called home now only consists of three luggage bags and a back
pack. I sat on the bed and looked out toward the moon light. It was so
beautiful. The moonlight shining on the tall coconut trees. I can’t believe
that I am leaving Haiti and leaving the orphanage in less than 5 hours. I
couldn’t fall asleep. All the memories and laughter of children kept on
replaying in my mind….I closed my eyes…praying for courage and strength in
dealing with my departure….
Haiti, thank you for showing me what being strong and
resilient is all about. Thank you for giving me your unconditional love and
care. The people of Haiti will always have a special place in my heart. The
children, no matter where you are and what struggles you are going through,
please think of me, think of all the good times we had together. I have done
all that I could to the best of my knowledge these past 10 months at the
orphanage. I am so grateful for this experience and so grateful to all the
people that have supported me from the beginning to the end. Thank you to all
the smiles, hugs, and kisses of each child that came my way. I have learned so
much about myself and how to better myself through the innocent daily
interactions between a child. Each child is unique in his own way and he brings
with him a precious lesson for humanity. People always say that I offered so
much of myself to the children of Haiti, but to me, it is actually the reverse.
The children of Haiti has given me so much in return. More than I can ever
dream of. Thank you for helping me find myself and thank you for helping me sustain
my inner peace. I’ve learned that true happiness cannot be bought, it is
actually shared in real time when you help others. Just like Master Cheng Yen
has taught me, « The more you give, the more you receive in return. »
This was absolutely true in Haiti. I’ve grown as a person over the 10 months at
the orphanage and not just physically and mentally, but my wisdom has grown, as
well. The love was overflown both ways and as a result, a difference was made.
This is not a final goodbye Haiti. You have become another
home for me. I cannot physically be there all the time, but spiritually, I will
always have a part there. A connection was made for life. The seeds of love
have been planted all over and I can’t wait to see them blossom over the
future. Everything happens for a reason. Every person you meet and every event
that takes place is a true blessing.
I looked out the window from the airplane…tears rolled down
my face…this emotional roller coaster must be the same feelings a child goes
through when his adoption is finalized. Just one day, all of a sudden, you find
yourself with your bags packed and heading toward a foreign country. The
abrupt goodbyes and uncertainty. I love you Haiti. We shall meet again one
day ! This I promise you !
The children made special cards for me to take home. The whole orphanage had a surprise going away party for me. All the children dressed their best and had their hair all made up. All the children didn’t want me to go. They kept on saying « Lori stay please. We will be good. Please stay with us. » We were all dancing and singing and taking photos at the same time.